Advice for my lady friend. - Ausbb

Alpha Moth · 28-11-2009, 01:49 PM

My GF lives in Germany (met her there), so we spend some periods of time not near each other... She has been complaining lately of being chubby, the usual shit.

What can I get her to do? She won't go to a gym (I've tried.. but she can't afford it either) and she doesn't really like exercise that much.

I asked her goals, and I don't get much of a reply. "Lose fat, tighten up my ass, legs and arms"

What is something simple to get her started, that won't make her hate it, but see enough results to start doing more?

She doesn't really do much at all, studies and so is sitting down a lot. She just has from what I know 3 meals a day.. usually breakfast (some toast or so usually), a snack like a small sandwich around lunch then "abendbrot", around 4pm which is usually a warm meal.

I suggested maybe she walk 30-60 minutes a day/ every second day and to track her weight each week. Would this be enough or won't she see anything?

Sadly I can't work out with her because of the distance, I will see her in January though so I can show her stuff then maybe.

Any advice from you other ladies?

Alpha Moth · 28-11-2009, 01:54 PM

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This is the best pic I have her, don't know how much you can tell from this picture. She certainly isn't obese.

Kyle Aaron · 28-11-2009, 03:41 PM

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Originally Posted by Alpha Moth

My GF lives in Germany [...]

What can I get her to do? She won't go to a gym (I've tried.. but she can't afford it either) and she doesn't really like exercise that much.

If you nag her to exercise when she doesn't want to, then you can be sure she'll stay in Germany, and you here.

No-one can get anyone else to exercise, change diet, or anything like that.

When she wants to do something, she'll do it without your help. Men respond to nagging, women don't.

Alpha Moth · 28-11-2009, 03:59 PM

She asked me for some advice/tips.

I'm fine with her body, I don't nag her at all.

Kyle Aaron · 28-11-2009, 04:31 PM

She asked for advice/tips, but she does not want advice/tips. They never do. Trust me.

This is especially so when they say, "I would like to lose some weight, but I don't want to join the gym or exercise." She's not asking how to change, she's asking for a compliment. So give it to her.

If she goes to uni, she is an intelligent woman with access to a gym, to fitness professionals and has the equipment and the smarts to do her own research about what to do. If she does not take steps by herself from that advantageous position, it's because she doesn't want to.

In the Fitness Australia code of ethics, fitness professionals promise not to engage in intimate relationships with people they train. By the same token, you should not try to train someone you're in an intimate relationship with. It never works.

When your woman says, "I would like to lose some weight, how can I do it?" the only proper response is "you are sexy."

hyjak · 28-11-2009, 04:41 PM

spot on Kyle

Morgan · 28-11-2009, 09:04 PM

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Originally Posted by Kyle Aaron

When your woman says, "I would like to lose some weight, how can I do it?" the only proper response is "you are sexy."

I was thinking "DOGGY STYLE!", although, mentally I'm barely 13yo.

Admin · 28-11-2009, 09:25 PM

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Originally Posted by Morgan

I was thinking "DOGGY STYLE!", although, mentally I'm barely 13yo.

lmao crude but funny lol

trofius · 28-11-2009, 11:29 PM

kyle has learnt, I also know what makes a happy home.

BUt sometimes you have to answer their questions, kinda, lol

I have am pretty sure the only way to tone up is to go to the gym or do some swimming etc, but why do you ask I think you are nice as you are

Bluey · 30-11-2009, 09:51 AM

Guys like to gove solutions to problems, but when girls complain its usually purely to vent, they dont want a solution.

Best thing Ive discovered lately, just agree with everything, smile, nod and pretend like you care.

28-11-2009, 01:49 PM	#1 (permalink)
Alpha Moth Super Member Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: Newcastle Gender: Posts: 510	Advice for my lady friend. My GF lives in Germany (met her there), so we spend some periods of time not near each other... She has been complaining lately of being chubby, the usual shit. What can I get her to do? She won't go to a gym (I've tried.. but she can't afford it either) and she doesn't really like exercise that much. I asked her goals, and I don't get much of a reply. "Lose fat, tighten up my ass, legs and arms" What is something simple to get her started, that won't make her hate it, but see enough results to start doing more? She doesn't really do much at all, studies and so is sitting down a lot. She just has from what I know 3 meals a day.. usually breakfast (some toast or so usually), a snack like a small sandwich around lunch then "abendbrot", around 4pm which is usually a warm meal. I suggested maybe she walk 30-60 minutes a day/ every second day and to track her weight each week. Would this be enough or won't she see anything? Sadly I can't work out with her because of the distance, I will see her in January though so I can show her stuff then maybe. Any advice from you other ladies?

28-11-2009, 01:54 PM	#2 (permalink)
Alpha Moth Super Member Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: Newcastle Gender: Posts: 510	[IMG]ht.jpg[/IMG] This is the best pic I have her, don't know how much you can tell from this picture. She certainly isn't obese. Last edited by Alpha Moth; 24-01-2012 at 10:55 AM.

28-11-2009, 04:31 PM	#5 (permalink)
Kyle Aaron Active Member Join Date: May 2009 Location: Melbourne Gender: Posts: 3,682	She asked for advice/tips, but she does not want advice/tips. They never do. Trust me. This is especially so when they say, "I would like to lose some weight, but I don't want to join the gym or exercise." She's not asking how to change, she's asking for a compliment. So give it to her. If she goes to uni, she is an intelligent woman with access to a gym, to fitness professionals and has the equipment and the smarts to do her own research about what to do. If she does not take steps by herself from that advantageous position, it's because she doesn't want to. In the Fitness Australia code of ethics, fitness professionals promise not to engage in intimate relationships with people they train. By the same token, you should not try to train someone you're in an intimate relationship with. It never works. When your woman says, "I would like to lose some weight, how can I do it?" the only proper response is "you are sexy." __________________ Recent clients' best results: BW +10kg/-27kg ... BF-11% ... ♀/♂1RM/kg SQ65/145 OHP30/65 DL75/170 "fitness and lifting is just an interest I have. Plain and simple. Some people like music, others like shopping, I like deadlifts." - a client[/SIZE]

28-11-2009, 04:41 PM	#6 (permalink)
hyjak Active Member Join Date: Jul 2009 Location: Melbourne Gender: Posts: 1,877	spot on Kyle __________________ Resident Reese's addict - powered by peanut butter cups

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trofius Active Member Join Date: Feb 2009 Location: Rockhampton Gender: Posts: 1,829	kyle has learnt, I also know what makes a happy home. BUt sometimes you have to answer their questions, kinda, lol I have am pretty sure the only way to tone up is to go to the gym or do some swimming etc, but why do you ask I think you are nice as you are __________________ Mick..yes another one there are hundreds here..! Currently 74kg, 173cm ~15%bf, 1 RM: B125, BS150, FS110 D180, MP75, PP80, PC90 6 RM: B100, BS110, FS80, D160, MP60, PP60, PC70 http://ausbb.com/member-training-dia...ys-2010-a.html

28-11-2009, 03:59 PM	#4 (permalink)
Alpha Moth Super Member Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: Newcastle Gender: Posts: 510	She asked me for some advice/tips. I'm fine with her body, I don't nag her at all.

30-11-2009, 09:51 AM	#10 (permalink)
Bluey Regular Member Join Date: Sep 2009 Location: Canberra, ACT Gender: Posts: 319	Guys like to gove solutions to problems, but when girls complain its usually purely to vent, they dont want a solution. Best thing Ive discovered lately, just agree with everything, smile, nod and pretend like you care. __________________ Lifts: Deadlift: 260kg Squat: 215kg Powerclean: 115kg Bench: 125kg Overhead 100kg at 128kg bw RAW.