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breaking up

Have you talked about it?
yess.. he gets defensive and laughs at me when im upset about something.. then after he says ok.. sorry i wont do that again

being 21 is a significant milestone for alot of people..
When my wife (GF at the time) turned 21 i had only met her 2 months before..
- I booked the whole bar out.
- had her spend a few hours at the massage and makeup place
- $7k bar tab for her and her friends
- Earings from tiffany
- Dj
- Penthouse at the hilton

i got more plastered than she did. ROFL!!

goddam! r u a drug dealer or something? your wife is verrrry very lucky.. all that shit is what a girl would dream for
my bf complained the cheapest thing at tiffanys was 200.
when i had my 21st i had been with my boyfriend for a year and a month
this is our 2nd year together :| i wonder wht he will get me/do for me ( no materialistic)

i think i shouldnt expect so much from aussie guys (no offence)
im half asian/aussie and i see all my asian friends with asian guys get treated like princesses.. i see wogs/asian guys treat their girls well in terms of spoiling..
my bf thinks its spoiling me when we go out to a casual thai restauarunt :S
his definition of spoiling is doing somethig nice and shouting.. and err yeah, sure its lovely, im not materialistic.. he does do some sweet romantic things, but i havent really been all out spoiled.. he doesnt rlly do surprise/random things either.. he usualy says.. ive got a surprise.. then i can usually tell what it is lol
ps hes not exactly a poor student like me either.. hes on like 90 k
i try to spoil and dont care about the $ if i have it, i booked 2 nights at a nice hotel once for his bday cos i thought itd be nice.

ive told him these things before..t hat sometimes hes a tightass.. hes changed a lot ( now he shouts most of the time at din)
but i feel bad telling him what my friends bf's do for my friends cos it makes him feel like a shit bf and i dont want him to think i think hes a shit bf cos hes not... he just doesnt have the same idea as spoiling once in a while :(
 
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Thanks for the story I am going to refer to it to make me look better next time my wife says I am selfish.

p.s. leaving the birthday party before the cake is not on. The clubbing maybe if he felt he would drag down your night with your friends by being a bore and offered a dinner for two instead but leaving the birthday early is really bad and leaves no excuse.

lol poor girl
 
I took my wife for 6 week European vacation for her birthday. Suited me 'coz I got to go to. ehehehe
 
he did continually apologise and asked me to forgive him after tho when he realised what a dickhead he was for doing it/ how upset i was.. so i try not to bring it up as an example of him not putting effort into stuff for me/ not caring but when i do he gets really mad

oh and i spoke to him before about my bday this year and i misunderstood him.. he didnt have a time limit oln how long he wanted to stay out this time
 
If he hasn't had a lot of relationships before u. Then he wouldn't have any idea on how to treat a girl. It's only after a few that some get the drift of how things work.. new guys make noobish mistakes..
 
If he hasn't had a lot of relationships before u. Then he wouldn't have any idea on how to treat a girl. It's only after a few that some get the drift of how things work.. new guys make noobish mistakes..
thats what i tell myself too and forgive him.. im his first.. same with me tho and im pretty sure i can figure out the basic stuff.. like he didnt give me anything for valentines etc if i was a dude i think i could figure that one out
 
thats what i tell myself too and forgive him.. im his first.. same with me tho and im pretty sure i can figure out the basic stuff.. like he didnt give me anything for valentines etc if i was a dude i think i could figure that one out

it took me a few years to figure out valentines day. i always thought of it as a rubbish calender day that the flower industry spruiks purely to profit more from people like you and me.. and i still think that, but have since realised that you should still make an effort and fork out some $$ to make her happy!
 
^ i think its just a feeling left out thing.. all the other girls get spoilt rotten then u get a blank card :|
 
What if you did nothing on that day but gave a special day of your own instead?

yeah of course i wouldnt mind if it were a different day, if he had done something really nice a while before valentines, i wouldnt mind if he didnt do anything on valentines
 
Valentines Day is a bullshit commercial holiday.
However random acts of kindness are nice.
 
Valentines Day is a bullshit commercial holiday.
However random acts of kindness are nice.
 
^ i think its just a feeling left out thing.. all the other girls get spoilt rotten then u get a blank card :|


Grow up girly (This not addressed at Mocha only. Just
using her comment to address a common issue widely).

How about you figure out what your own insecurities and work
on those huh? Instead of using your boyfriend to fill that Void?!!

Here are your choices:

1. Accept behavior.
2. Don't accept behavior
3. Find ways to 'self generate' your own happiness &
contentment in life.


Devante.
 
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