Your gf/bf's past lovvvvers

[Rambodian]

Im sure we all know the difference between a slut and a girl that has been with a few guys and made one or two mistakes.

I totally agree with this, this is something I should of added to my previous post. I am a realest after all, and if my wife and I parted ways 20yrs from now because we simply fell out of love for each other, I would not hold it against another woman if they were in one or two previous relationships. BUT I stress 'relationship', because I think many think a relationship is just having a root with someone more than once. To me it would have to be a significant part of their life and hold a special meaning, and therefore that woman would probably be in a similar position to the one I would be in.

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[pistachio]

That should be something you ignore and dont give a shit about......

Umm yeah, its kinda hard to ignore when they still love you and you still love them

 

[Big Mick]

Could not care less how may partners my new parter would have had and how many one night stands or gang bangs she been in

It's what she does when she is with me that matters, as the past is the past.

We all have things in our closets that we don't want to come out, I am pretty sure because of threads like this is why women will lie about the amout of partners they have had. I don't know too many women who will tell their new partner that they used be a gang bang whore for years, or that she used to have different guys every week end in the car park of the night club.

Most wome will tell you they had one or two guys before you, even of it was one or two hundred in reality. Think about it, a lot of guys will brag about having had X amount of women, yet most women will claim to have had minimal partner.....someone has to be lying

I personally know of one women who I know for a fact would have 1 or 2 different guys a week, most of my mates have slept with her, as well as many others, and these are only the ones I know about, she is now married with kids and her hubby knows nothing about it, I think she claims she only had one guy before him, when in fact she used to be passed around between many guys, guys that now have a beer with hubby at the Sunday BBQ.

I would also be concerned about being married to a virgin or women with minimal experience, as she will eventually get restless, wondering what other men would be like, like to pool cleaner, the TV repair man or Posty, who will all end up having a run while you are out at work or down the gym.

 

[k_21]

Could not care less how may partners my new parter would have had and how many one night stands or gang bangs she been in

It's what she does when she is with me that matters, as the past is the past.

We all have things in our closets that we don't want to come out, I am pretty sure because of threads like this is why women will lie about the amout of partners they have had. I don't know too many women who will tell their new partner that they used be a gang bang whore for years, or that she used to have different guys every week end in the car park of the night club.

Most wome will tell you they had one or two guys before you, even of it was one or two hundred in reality. Think about it, a lot of guys will brag about having had X amount of women, yet most women will claim to have had minimal partner.....someone has to be lying

I personally know of one women who I know for a fact would have 1 or 2 different guys a week, most of my mates have slept with her, as well as many others, and these are only the ones I know about, she is now married with kids and her hubby knows nothing about it, I think she claims she only had one guy before him, when in fact she used to be passed around between many guys, guys that now have a beer with hubby at the Sunday BBQ.

I would also be concerned about being married to a virgin or women with minimal experience, as she will eventually get restless, wondering what other men would be like, like to pool cleaner, the TV repair man or Posty, who will all end up having a run while you are out at work or down the gym.

Thank you Big Mick for illustrating this point.

The reason most women lie about their past is because
the "male ego is oh so fragile and can't handle it"!!

Most males talk a big game but when it comes down to it
they can't handle the TRUTH! - Yet they want a saint in
their women.

Devante.

 

[Rugby88]

Everything comes back down to confidence in yourself I think.....

 

[kindred]

I only ask about ex partners that may return to break my legs. Self preservation is a big thing for me.

 

[Rugby88]

Umm yeah, its kinda hard to ignore when they still love you and you still love them

Well if you both still love eachother then you have nothing to worry about...she will not be sleeping with anyone till you work it out or until you both work out you cant be with eachother...

If she sleeps with someone else while she "still loves you" then she prob doesnt love you...

 

[Gus]

This is my first post so excuse me for intruding kinda but I came across this thread and this is MHO
As a female who has had past relationships I can say that If I never had people In my past I would have never been able to mature mentally to what I have now, you learn what you like and what you dont like in someone which leads you to not only be honest with yourself but also the other people involved, I am in a current long term relationship and im confident in saying he is pretty much the bees knees and everything I even wanted for myself..... your past makes you who you are and if someone cant deal with that, then they dont deserve to be there.

 

[Rambodian]

Everything comes back down to confidence in yourself I think.....

I don't really understand this, why does someone have to be confident in themselves to be with someone who is a whore. I find that statement completely contradictory to my way of thinking. I would think that someone would have to have low self esteem and lacking in confidence to end up with a person like that, as they feel they are not good enough to find someone better.
It's fascinating how we all have different opinions on this subject, its been an interesting insight at how we all think.

I personally know of one women who I know for a fact would have 1 or 2 different guys a week, most of my mates have slept with her, as well as many others, and these are only the ones I know about, she is now married with kids and her hubby knows nothing about it, I think she claims she only had one guy before him, when in fact she used to be passed around between many guys, guys that now have a beer with hubby at the Sunday BBQ.

I would also be concerned about being married to a virgin or women with minimal experience, as she will eventually get restless, wondering what other men would be like, like to pool cleaner, the TV repair man or Posty, who will all end up having a run while you are out at work or down the gym.

Mick I feel sorry your mate if that is the case. I find it hard to believe that he wouldn't know at all, surely he has some inclination of how she was, maybe he prefers his woman like this and that's why everyone thinks he doesn't know. After all, plenty of people have said they would prefer a lady like this, so he probably knows but just doesn't care and in that case I say good on him.

My wife and I have only been with each other from very young, I have only slept with 2 other girls as a teenage boy and told her that. Since I've been with her I never wanted to be with another woman and she has stayed faithful to me in this time. You make the assumption that everyone wants to see if the grass is greener on the other side, I find that view interesting because I know plenty who have it, but I also have plenty of friends just like me and my wife who don't have it. I can tell you that there is allot of people like me who would prefer to just keep there own grass green.

This thread has been a good read so far, so many views, and at the end of the day they are all right in my book. We all have the capacity to live our lives whatever way we choose, however the only thing I have contention with is that people seem to think that their view is the only right view. Everyone has their own ideals in life, especially when it comes to sex and sexuality.

 

[Rugby88]

I don't really understand this, why does someone have to be confident in themselves to be with someone who is a whore. I find that statement completely contradictory to my way of thinking. I would think that someone would have to have low self esteem and lacking in confidence to end up with a person like that, as they feel they are not good enough to find someone better.
It's fascinating how we all have different opinions on this subject, its been an interesting insight at how we all think.



Mick I feel sorry your mate if that is the case. I find it hard to believe that he wouldn't know at all, surely he has some inclination of how she was, maybe he prefers his woman like this and that's why everyone thinks he doesn't know. After all, plenty of people have said they would prefer a lady like this, so he probably knows but just doesn't care and in that case I say good on him.

My wife and I have only been with each other from very young, I have only slept with 2 other girls as a teenage boy and told her that. Since I've been with her I never wanted to be with another woman and she has stayed faithful to me in this time. You make the assumption that everyone wants to see if the grass is greener on the other side, I find that view interesting because I know plenty who have it, but I also have plenty of friends just like me and my wife who don't have it. I can tell you that there is allot of people like me who would prefer to just keep there own grass green.

This thread has been a good read so far, so many views, and at the end of the day they are all right in my book. We all have the capacity to live our lives whatever way we choose, however the only thing I have contention with is that people seem to think that their view is the only right view. Everyone has their own ideals in life, especially when it comes to sex and sexuality.

Im trying to say that ALOT of guys dont like girls to have been with other guys because they are not confident within themself...i.e they question if they are good enough in bed, looking after them etc etc etc

But most guys cant admitt this...they just say oh I dont want a slut and things like that....but really deep down they are questioning themselves and if they are good enough...

If you are with a girl who has been with a number of men then the preasure to plz that girl is alot more than if they have never been with someone.....

 

[KungFooGoo]

l think it has to do with moral connections as well. If her moral campus (spelling?) is all out of what in your opinion then it's probably not going to work out. You need to have the same values l think to be successful l dont think it has to do 100% with not being confident enough in yourself.

 

[DKD]

Good Goo

 

[Camo T]

I find it funny when I see my ex with other guys she acts all wierd and funny likes shes doing something wrong and I just walk up and say hi to both of them cause it really doesnt bother me. Lifes way to short to worry about the past or what someone might think of you cause your seeing a girl that has had past relationships....

You could be gone tomorrow guys/girls, my advice find someone that truly makes you happy and hang on to them however you can.!

 

[KungFooGoo]

Good Goo

Are you agreeing with me or taking the piss? l can't tell with you most times, sarcasm doesn't translate well to text.

 

[DKD]

I'm not extracting the urine. Your comment was good Goo. Spot on actually.

 

[KungFooGoo]

Ahh, well thankyou. But since you will not extract my urine l will have to leave briefly to excrete urine out of my urethra. Good day gentlemen.

 

[Bella]

Well THIS is an interesting thread!! I didn't even see it until right now!

Can I add? (you know me!) lol

I said to Joel today, that the number of past lovers/sexual partners a man or woman has had, is irrelevant - completely irrelevant. And I won't and don't even enter into this discussion, not ever and not at all.

Not because I've had loads - I have not.

I'm a sexually open, very adventurous and sensual woman - but I can count on my hands how many men I've slept with, and still have fingers left over!! I have also, at the age of 36, never had a one night stand.

But these things, have been my choice? I KNOW who I am. I KNOW that my heart is linked to my libido and I KNOW sleeping with many random strangers, or having one night stands, would be disruptive to my soul and wouldn't serve me, in any way.

So I don't do it.

This is where self pleasure comes in and trust me, I do it often and alot!
lol

But sexual prowess, is about 'quality' not 'quantity'. Someone in here hit the nail on the head when they made reference to the fragile ego's not being able to handle the number. It's true. And you have to ask yourself 'why' is it true for YOU?

So you meet a new girl - you're on your 5th date and you say to her 'So how many men have you been with'

She looks you dead in the eye and with a gentle smile says '46'

What are you going to feel in that moment? Nothing good I can assure you! You'll judge her, immediately. And at the end of the day, who cares???

As long as the person you're with is clean and free of any diseases or STD's - who really gives a shit how many people they've been with? Or how many one night stands they've had?

All those girls you remember as being sluts - all grow up and get married and have kids someday?

All those bastards who were the worst players in the world, all eventually get married and settle down and build a family with someone else?

My point is - this piece of information, is completely irrelevant to YOUR relationship. So why ask? And why on earth would you want to know?

Sex, is a physical act, it's primal and animalistic and it's a physiological response to stimulation.

So any one of us could be in a pitch black room - and to be crass, a mouth, is a mouth and a hole is a hole. In the end, you will become aroused...and you will cum. Regardless of who it is, what gender they are and their level of attractiveness - this is true for every single one of us - we're human beings! We're created to experience pleasure?

The fundamental difference here is that when you're in a relationship with another person, a brand new one or a long term one - you've made a conscious choice to share your time, heart, dreams, body, space,life and everything else - with that person. The two of you agree to what that relationship looks like and what the boundaries are and how it will work - for you?

Your not in a dark room anymore and it's no longer JUST a physiological response. It now becomes about compatibility, connection, chemistry - and when it comes to these things, we're all looking for something different. What's attractive to me, may not be attractive to you? So this partner selection is subconsciously a very complex and individual process.

So that beautiful woman, you've been seeing for 8 months, who makes you laugh and makes you feel alive and makes you want to be a better man - would suddenly become trash if you found out she'd slept with 21 men before you?

What's the number tolerance threshold? I mean, it's really just stupid.

It's a number. And it doesn't matter.

Joel was 100% right when he said it all comes down to confidence in yourself.

At the end of the day, the ONLY thing you should concern yourself with is being completely present in the relationship and the moment with the wonderful human being you've chosen to be with.

Her past is none of your business, just as yours, is none of hers - but be grateful for it - regardless of the 'number' or his/her 'experiences' - because that same past - has bought him/her directly to you

Ok...epic post. Time for bed
lol

I may have written this in Dutch...it's 1.00am and my sleepy eyes are on!

 

[coaltrain]

i think you can tell without asking.
its all in the way she rides/sucks/pushes back.
if shes out classing you in the bedroom...bad news for you brother, shes had more dicking than youve had chicks....

 

[Bella]

i think you can tell without asking.
its all in the way she rides/sucks/pushes back.
if shes out classing you in the bedroom...bad news for you brother, shes had more dicking than youve had chicks....

lololol

 

[Rugby88]

i think you can tell without asking.
its all in the way she rides/sucks/pushes back.
if shes out classing you in the bedroom...bad news for you brother, shes had more dicking than youve had chicks....

But thats what all guys want...a chick that can fuck like a porn star....but then they have a cry if they have been with X number of guys....

Come on guys...a girl needs practice....and if it means shes had to be with a few other guys to give me the best fuck of my life then shit I am willing for that to happen...

Remember its not always about her number...its about you worrying if you will perform to what shes used to or what shes had...the more men shes been with the more preasure your under to perform....

I honestly dont think many guys really give a shit about the number its more the above ^^ comment that freaks guys out...but most are not willing to admitt this....again be confident in your fuck and everything else falls into place...