How do you 'Categorise' Cheating.

[El Testicle]

I mean it may sound warped in someone's view.
But I seriously don't see the need for my wife to be alone with another man in a social basis other then her family of course.

I mean, yes I have professional female people I would call friends too. Doctors, lawyers etc, but always catch up with them in family orientated ways. I would never, ever disrespect my wife and go alone with one of them to have a drink.
Also wouldn't disrespect their husbands either by asking her that.
Anyway, they know I would never ask them and they would never ask me, as they all have the same view as I do, it's just not right

Agreed...

Then again, I know I'm a possessive dude

 

[Eagle]

Agreed...

Then again, I know I'm a possessive dude

Lol, I think by the way I talk I'm possessive and controlling.

Oh well, that's me I suppose, each to their own lol

Lets look at it this way, when we were younger and single, we would go out, meet girls etc, if lucky we get a date, for the purpose of getting to know them. If it kicks off we see them again etc, so by spending time with them we can grow fonder and a relationship developes.

When your in a relationship, your doing the same thing, your spending alone time with a person you like, cause if u didn't like them they wouldn't be your friend lol. So being alone and spending that time together and risking becoming more attracted to them by sheer nature of stimulation of that person, in turn risking the current relationship you have.

So, in my view, u don't put yourself in that position when your already in a relationship, let that flourish and grow. Then you'll either realise she's the one for you and u don't need other women or u realise its not right.

If not right u break up and then go on dates again to maybe find the right one.

But never in a relationship, just asking for trouble

 

[El Testicle]

Lol, I think by the way I talk I'm possessive and controlling.

Oh well, that's me I suppose, each to their own lol

Lets look at it this way, when we were younger and single, we would go out, meet girls etc, if lucky we get a date, for the purpose of getting to know them. If it kicks off we see them again etc, so by spending time with them we can grow fonder and a relationship developes.

When your in a relationship, your doing the same thing, your spending alone time with a person you like, cause if u didn't like them they wouldn't be your friend lol. So being alone and spending that time together and risking becoming more attracted to them by sheer nature of stimulation of that person, in turn risking the current relationship you have.

So, in my view, u don't put yourself in that position when your already in a relationship, let that flourish and grow. Then you'll either realise she's the one for you and u don't need other women or u realise its not right.

If not right u break up and then go on dates again to maybe find the right one.

But never in a relationship, just asking for trouble

All of what you're saying is true... hard but true... and good, innocent people often have to bare the brunt of it all.

In a nutshell - If you've got it good (and sometimes you don't know how good you got it, til its gone) ; it just aint worth the risk...

Shame us males tend think with our other heads sometimes

 

[Eagle]

All of what you're saying is true... hard but true... and good, innocent people often have to bare the brunt of it all.

In a nutshell - If you've got it good (and sometimes you don't know how good you got it, til its gone) ; it just aint worth the risk...

Shame us males tend think with our other heads sometimes

I agree, men do think like that.
I would question any male that says they just want to hang alone with a female just for frienship, amazing how they don't just hang with ugly chicks.

How many times do we look at chicks and say wow, she's hot and then proceed to attract her attention and talk about what they would do to her.
It's human nature, so why out yourself in such a position.

Sorry, I know it's obvious that a lot of you don't agree with me, but as far as I'm concerned, spending time alone, one on one, texting etc to a married lady or when your in a relationship is classified cheating, cause in my view, cheating is not just having sex or intending to, but also includes doing things that can lead to that by spending time with them that can cause further attraction

 

[El Testicle]

Yup ... If it has the chance of turning into something else, why tempt fate?

Shit just turns into a train wreck...

 

[Brick]

I agree, men do think like that.
I would question any male that says they just want to hang alone with a female just for frienship, amazing how they don't just hang with ugly chicks.

How many times do we look at chicks and say wow, she's hot and then proceed to attract her attention and talk about what they would do to her.
It's human nature, so why out yourself in such a position.

Sorry, I know it's obvious that a lot of you don't agree with me, but as far as I'm concerned, spending time alone, one on one, texting etc to a married lady or when your in a relationship is classified cheating, cause in my view, cheating is not just having sex or intending to, but also includes doing things that can lead to that by spending time with them that can cause further attraction

100% right anyone that says otherwise is just lying, gay or hanging out with their sister. If you don't want to fuck em why would you bother

 

[lkt004]

Yup ... If it has the chance of turning into something else, why tempt fate?

Shit just turns into a train wreck...

Self control?

My mind is seriously blown, do men only hang out with women to have sex with them? Some of my closest friends are women, and some of my wife's closest friends are men. I chat to 4-5 women per day on Facebook (currently chatting to 2 ex students), email, in person etc. in both a social and professional context, and cannot fathom how that could be construed as cheating. The vast majority of the time, if i am having an intelligent, articulate conversation it is generally with a woman.

Different strokes i guess.

 

[Brick]

Self control?

My mind is seriously blown, do men only hang out with women to have sex with them? Some of my closest friends are women, and some of my wife's closest friends are men. I chat to 4-5 women per day on Facebook (currently chatting to 2 ex students), email, in person etc. in both a social and professional context, and cannot fathom how that could be construed as cheating. The vast majority of the time, if i am having an intelligent, articulate conversation it is generally with a woman.

Different strokes i guess.

Chatting with 4-5 women a day, intelligent, articulate conversation. Not banging any of these broads, no interest in banging em.

Sorry to break it to you bro but your gay. I'm sure you'll come to accept it with time.

 

[Eagle]

Self control?

My mind is seriously blown, do men only hang out with women to have sex with them? Some of my closest friends are women, and some of my wife's closest friends are men. I chat to 4-5 women per day on Facebook (currently chatting to 2 ex students), email, in person etc. in both a social and professional context, and cannot fathom how that could be construed as cheating. The vast majority of the time, if i am having an intelligent, articulate conversation it is generally with a woman.

Different strokes i guess.

In my view u are having a professional & educational conversation with these women. If you spend extended alone time and one on one time with these attractive girls, you'd putting yourself at risk of developing a further attraction that can result in ruining your marraige.

It's playing with fire.

Again, that's only my view

 

[Eagle]

When u say all we want to go is hang with them so we can bang them, is not entirely correct. But almost the case.
In some instances when u say u are having an intellectual intelligent conversation, that's all it is.
But when texting and wanting to catch up for alone time and coffee, I can almost gaurantee there is an alterior motive involved.
We are built that way, it's the nature of the beast, men chase and get what they can, as soon as a woman agrees to meet them, they automatically think they're in with a chance.

That's why I say when a woman in a refashionship accepts to hang with other men, they are playing with fire, and always get surprised when they get hit on, cause they thought its just friends. I'm sorry bro, but I would definitely keep a watch on those males that like hanging with your wife, not saying they all want her, but I'd be carefull

 

[lkt004]

When u say all we want to go is hang with them so we can bang them, is not entirely correct. But almost the case.
In some instances when u say u are having an intellectual intelligent conversation, that's all it is.
But when texting and wanting to catch up for alone time and coffee, I can almost gaurantee there is an alterior motive involved.
We are built that way, it's the nature of the beast, men chase and get what they can, as soon as a woman agrees to meet them, they automatically think they're in with a chance.

That's why I say when a woman in a refashionship accepts to hang with other men, they are playing with fire, and always get surprised when they get hit on, cause they thought its just friends. I'm sorry bro, but I would definitely keep a watch on those males that like hanging with your wife, not saying they all want her, but I'd be carefull

I am ~87kg at 5'7" and covered in tattoos, ain't nobody going to be messing with my wife haha.

But in all seriousness i know all the guys she hangs out with, and if one of them got weird i would quickly know about it, and my wife would quickly deal with it. If someone wants to hit on my wife, that's fine, if my wife informs them she is not interested and is married, and they continue, that's where i draw the line. My wife is very intelligent, and a great judge of character, none of her male friends have tried to bang her yet.

 

[Eagle]

I am ~87kg at 5'7" and covered in tattoos, ain't nobody going to be messing with my wife haha.

But in all seriousness i know all the guys she hangs out with, and if one of them got weird i would quickly know about it, and my wife would quickly deal with it. If someone wants to hit on my wife, that's fine, if my wife informs them she is not interested and is married, and they continue, that's where i draw the line. My wife is very intelligent, and a great judge of character, none of her male friends have tried to bang her yet.

Ok bro, that's cool.
I'm 105kg & 6 foot.

I still don't trust males that want to hang alone with my wife.
Not that she does that, cause she agrees with me.
She has no male friends besides family, brother etc

She wouldn't even contemplate talking to her sisters husband, cause in her view, what's the need? All it's doing is shoring interest in him & he might get the wrong idea.
I love the way she thinks, probably why I've been married 18 years

 

[lkt004]

Ok bro, that's cool.
I'm 105kg & 6 foot.

I still don't trust males that want to hang alone with my wife.
Not that she does that, cause she agrees with me.
She has no male friends besides family, brother etc

She wouldn't even contemplate talking to her sisters husband, cause in her view, what's the need? All it's doing is shoring interest in him & he might get the wrong idea.
I love the way she thinks, probably why I've been married 18 years

This is just going round and round, in the end, you have your beliefs and i have mine. No point discussing any further.

 

[Eagle]

This is just going round and round, in the end, you have your beliefs and i have mine. No point discussing any further.

No problem.

Each to their own I suppose.
I respect all opinions, I just have my views and I stick too them.
I've seen it happen way to often.
Always the friend lol

 

[Bazza20]

I am ~87kg at 5'7" and covered in tattoos, ain't nobody going to be messing with my wife haha.

But in all seriousness i know all the guys she hangs out with, and if one of them got weird i would quickly know about it, and my wife would quickly deal with it. If someone wants to hit on my wife, that's fine, if my wife informs them she is not interested and is married, and they continue, that's where i draw the line. My wife is very intelligent, and a great judge of character, none of her male friends have tried to bang her yet.

Tattoos are hardly intimidating anymore. Used to be but not every second fucker has a full sleeve now.

My missus was good friends with a bloke. He would ring her all the time and want to catch up. I wasn't worried but told her you know he is keen on you. She didn't believe me. One night rings her up drunk and spills the beans.

I can't think of any bloke I know who is actually just best friends with a women that he is not either with or trying. Not just work friends or whatever.

 

[lkt004]

lol bazz i was taking the piss re tattoos and beinh scary.

 

[Bazza20]

lol bazz i was taking the piss re tattoos and beinh scary.

Haha.

 

[Eagle]

Tattoos are hardly intimidating anymore. Used to be but not every second fucker has a full sleeve now.

My missus was good friends with a bloke. He would ring her all the time and want to catch up. I wasn't worried but told her you know he is keen on you. She didn't believe me. One night rings her up drunk and spills the beans.

I can't think of any bloke I know who is actually just best friends with a women that he is not either with or trying. Not just work friends or whatever.

My point exactly, it's nature, a bloke isn't just texting and calling a woman and wanting to catch up for just friendship in a social setting

 

[Shrek]

Meh, a coffee between friends doesn't mean alterior motives.
Blown out of proportion.

 

[Eagle]

Still cheating in my book, your giving the other person alone & personal private time that should only be given to your partner.
A coffee with friends is just that, when u and they have their partner there, when alone, there's more to it

Like this girl I once knew, she was in a relationship, still getting texts from blokes she claimed just friends, and catching up with one.
Turns out the one she was catching up with and texting they had met on a dating site lol, and went on a couple of dates.
The other was constantly asking her out and even was sending half naked shots of himself in the bathroom to her.
She was in a relationship at the time!!!
That's just not on