Attention After Transformation

[NightFallTech]

No guy likes fat chicks. If he does he's fucking 'broken'. You're primal instinct is to get the best/healthiest looking chick and bang her to have your kid. Nothing is healthy about a fat chick and generally the guys that are saying 'the fatter the better' dont really meant that it just gives the illusion of them being really confident and getting what they want (supposedly) but in reality a gorgeous/healthy chick wouldn't want a bar of him so he can only get the fatties with low self esteem.

^^^just rapeys way of thinking. Settle the fuck down if you dont agree, its an opinion, feel free to have yours'^^^

Fat no... but i'll take a healthy size 10-14 girl over a skinny size 4-6 any day of the week. Although honestly i find a wide range of girls sexy.. extremes excepted. I find my initial impression is very quickly modified by personality and connection.

 

[Brick]

Size 14 is what I would put in the easy zone. Women around that size are generally insecure about their size and shape but still reasonabley attractive, what most blokes consider rootable anyway but not dateable. Overtly sexual and agressive come ons are a pretty good chance of getting you laid with the added bonus that if you get shutdown it doesn't really matter too much cause there is alot of sorta cute chubby chicks out there. The guys are just playing the law of averages in the size range where the odds are in their favour.

In short what you are getting is male attention with zero effort attached to it. Report back when your size 10 & i bet the guys will be working a little harder to woo you.

I expect to be flamed for this answer but do not care because if you put a question like this out there you have to be prepared for the responses.

 

[Bella]

Nope, fair enough.

You could very well be right.

Interesting.

 

[KungFooGoo]

Size 14 is what I would put in the easy zone. Women around that size are generally insecure about their size and shape but still reasonabley attractive, what most blokes consider rootable anyway but not dateable. Overtly sexual and agressive come ons are a pretty good chance of getting you laid with the added bonus that if you get shutdown it doesn't really matter too much cause there is alot of sorta cute chubby chicks out there. The guys are just playing the law of averages in the size range where the odds are in their favour.

In short what you are getting is male attention with zero effort attached to it. Report back when your size 10 & i bet the guys will be working a little harder to woo you.

I expect to be flamed for this answer but do not care because if you put a question like this out there you have to be prepared for the responses.

.....Brick is on fire today. Everything that was said ^^^^ 100% true.

 

[Bella]

I agree with most of what he said too, it certainly makes sense.

However, there are always exceptions? There are some men who think a size 12-14 is hot and would smash & date?

Also, I am not insecure at this weight, in fact, this is probably the most attractive and fit I have ever felt. I've been skinnier when I was younger of course, but had no idea how I felt about myself.

Now, I'm more mature, I like who I am very much and I'm really proud of what I've achieved, whether it's the perfect physique or not. It likely never will be and there's still work to be done, but I'm good with it and very body confident at present.

Probably the reason I don't go and sleep with them to validate myself I suppose?

Interesting to think about though.

 

[bradsky]

soo... fluffy is brick. ffs.

anyways, maybe you should go pick up some quiet shy types, at least they probably wont try and grab a tit.

 

[nazzysmith]

Dont be stupid..... Most girls look better without cakes of makeup on their face but id say 1/50 look better with ZERO makeup... A little face crap and eyeliner does the trick though.

Lolz.... That's what I was saying.... most girls look better with no make up...

Meanwhile when using makeup less is always better...

 

[CaT_SPeW]

Ok so I have been pondering this question with friends for the last couple of weeks and thought I'd ask the forum if anyone has any stories, information or advice.

I have lost a grown man, actually probably a normal grown marrying carrying a fucking heavy backpack. When I was very fat, I never had trouble attracting male attention, although I always thought they were freakoids I hated the way I looked, so was surprised when anyone approached me.

Fast forward to today, I'm a size 14-ish now, curvaceous but not a fatty patty anymore I suppose. I still have some fat loss left to go, but I look relatively 'normal' these days, whatever that means. I'm fit, firecely independant and busy.

But what I've found are two things ;

When I was really overweight, the men who hit on me were....gentlemen, I guess? They talked, we laughed, it was decent conversation etc etc

Now...every man who hits on me really just wants to throw a leg over. There's no real finesse in this process and their desires are pretty blatant. They either come right out and say "I want to fuck you" or we have a 'date' and the last guy said "So when do I get to lay with you"?

WTF?

What is going on????

I was very fat, for many years...so this.....overtly sexual "I want to screw you" kinda behaviour leaves me reeling a bit.

Strangers who strike up conversation, men I 'date', men who wander over when I'm out with friends...I just don't get it?

I don't dress like a ho. I don't have my tits hanging out or short skirts on. In fact the last few times I have been hit on, I've had no makeup on and been in gym gear. What is this new phenomona??? Have I just been out of the game too long and this behaviour is now normal?

I understand when I'm out for a party or engagement party or whatever, hussied up and dressed for the occasion, but still the 'come on's' are incredibly bold and sexual, rather than someone just coming up and saying 'Hi I'm _____, how's your night going?"

Has anyone else gone through a transformation and experienced this or anything like this?

Input, advice or your own stories would be grand.

not 100% sure but are you asking me to send you a photo of my penis??

 

[Zoot]

You're reading too much into it Bella
The men previously did not see you as a sexual object due to being extremely overweight, sorry but true

Now after the weight loss men look at you sexually, it's a very strong urge, so now they talk and treat you differently.

^^ This. When blokes were not interested, you may even have been seeing them at their best.

That and you're what, in your 30's now? Could be that all the ones who are halfway presentable got hoovered up by the marriage machine and are now at home watching TV in the evenings. Ergo, you're seeing a high percentage of leftovers, who are leftover for a good reason.

 

[Bella]

not 100% sure but are you asking me to send you a photo of my penis??

mwahahaha Oh Reuben, am I that transparent????

 

[Bella]

^^ This. When blokes were not interested, you may even have been seeing them at their best.

That and you're what, in your 30's now? Could be that all the ones who are halfway presentable got hoovered up by the marriage machine and are now at home watching TV in the evenings. Ergo, you're seeing a high percentage of leftovers, who are leftover for a good reason.

Another theory! It certainly feels that way lol

I'm 36

Damnit.

 

[Zoot]

I'm 36

Damnit.

Keep your eyes peeled for some good, low-mileage models coming onto the second-hand market

 

[bull]

I have another theory. You are dating guys who have been around the dating game for a long time (30s-40s). They have conducted a lot of fruitless expeditions in the past and prefer to burn out early rather than chase their tail for weeks and finally work it out for themselves.

I think you may have said that you dated older men in your young days as well but they were possibly prepared to work a bit harder for young Bella than they are now.

Don't have any advice on how to deal with it. It would be just as awkward to work some clear signals in to the conversation early as it is to go the tit grab on the footpath. That would not work at all.

 

[Bella]

Keep your eyes peeled for some good, low-mileage models coming onto the second-hand market

mwahahaha okie dokie

I have another theory. You are dating guys who have been around the dating game for a long time (30s-40s). They have conducted a lot of fruitless expeditions in the past and prefer to burn out early rather than chase their tail for weeks and finally work it out for themselves.

I think you may have said that you dated older men in your young days as well but they were possibly prepared to work a bit harder for young Bella than they are now.

Don't have any advice on how to deal with it. It would be just as awkward to work some clear signals in to the conversation early as it is to go the tit grab on the footpath. That would not work at all.

True enough bull.

But the guys I'm talking about, & please, I haven't 'dated' all of them, a couple of dates this year, the rest have approached me in clubs/pubs/the shopping centre/fruit shop.....weird places, where I've never really been hit on before....but they're younger men. Like 18-30 I would say.

And a couple in their 30's around my age.

The last older bloke I dated was 46 and he was the biggest fuck up of all time...nuff said

lol

I'm closing the gap

But I find the younger guys SO much more forward and blatant with their come on's. The unshockable bella has been rendered speechless on more than one occasion recently lol

 

[dave]

Young guys don't want a relationship and want to sex the older woman who knows what she wants.

Ignore them like the children they are.

Says the 29 year old.

 

[_Gruph_]

I got fat after leaving school and have been in a transformation state over the last 5-6 yrs.
Women are nearly as bad as ur examples of mens comments Bella especially wen my hormones are high it seems they get a lil crazy lol
Examples...
My new manager at work is hot, and the first day we had one on ones to get to kno each other and exchange expectations etc.. All she wanted to kno about me was gym stuff and kept looking at my arms and eye fukking me (Pretty sure she eye sucked my sausage too right there in the interview room) the convo ended with her saying wen she gets her new fridge i will come in handy cos ill be able to help her move it as her dad and brother are weak!
Then we have a compition where u can win a holiday to Newcaledonia all expences payed by one of our clients. To get a spot u can ither be in top 20 sales ladder and other randum stuff like make a funny short film, she made me play a part of a guy in the park doing push ups with his shirt off who saves the day wen a girls handbag gets stolen by a panda bear!! Shes a hornbag!
Another example last time i went home to gc my mates girlfriend called me drunk being terribally perswasive trying to convince me to meet up with her! I was like not unless my mate is there and i called him and told him!! Haha so yes women are just the same!
For the record im one of those guys who are pretty straight forward too if i want to have sex ill say it, “wen do i get to lay you“ is pretty lame tho and a bit rude i think haha nomally id start talking dirty indirectly and if she plays along i get more direct, i get way more sex that way and its fun haha

 

[Bella]

Young guys don't want a relationship and want to sex the older woman who knows what she wants.

Ignore them like the children they are.

Says the 29 year old.

lol thanks dave, I think you're right

I got fat after leaving school and have been in a transformation state over the last 5-6 yrs.
Women are nearly as bad as ur examples of mens comments Bella especially wen my hormones are high it seems they get a lil crazy lol
Examples...
My new manager at work is hot, and the first day we had one on ones to get to kno each other and exchange expectations etc.. All she wanted to kno about me was gym stuff and kept looking at my arms and eye fukking me (Pretty sure she eye sucked my sausage too right there in the interview room) the convo ended with her saying wen she gets her new fridge i will come in handy cos ill be able to help her move it as her dad and brother are weak!
Then we have a compition where u can win a holiday to Newcaledonia all expences payed by one of our clients. To get a spot u can ither be in top 20 sales ladder and other randum stuff like make a funny short film, she made me play a part of a guy in the park doing push ups with his shirt off who saves the day wen a girls handbag gets stolen by a panda bear!! Shes a hornbag!
Another example last time i went home to gc my mates girlfriend called me drunk being terribally perswasive trying to convince me to meet up with her! I was like not unless my mate is there and i called him and told him!! Haha so yes women are just the same!
For the record im one of those guys who are pretty straight forward too if i want to have sex ill say it, “wen do i get to lay you“ is pretty lame tho and a bit rude i think haha nomally id start talking dirty indirectly and if she plays along i get more direct, i get way more sex that way and its fun haha

mwahahahaha ok Gruphy, but you're lovely, these boys are not so lovely. lol

Great stories though from the horny womenzzzzzzzz

 

[KungFooGoo]

I have a strange theory. Just suck a dick then your phobia of penis will go away. Then you'll bang these 'gentleman' that come up to you for a fuck. Whats the worst thats going to happen? you have to fake an orgasm (boohoo) ...whats the best that going to happen? While being fuck buddies with said gentleman he wins lotto then you win.

 

[Sticky]

If you carry on in real life the way you do on the forum, I'm suprised that they'd even bother talking.

 

[PowerBarbie]

If you carry on in real life the way you do on the forum, I'm suprised that they'd even bother talking.

Was also thinking this. Don't think I've ever seen so much talk of sex, porn and fairly constant innuendo from a female on a forum before.. You may not realize it, and think you're just being open and friendly, but behave in that way and expect such behavior back IMO.