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Or to put it another way: when dating off the interwebs, how many respectable girls/women will sleep with as guy on the first date? Furthermore, how many women will actually contact the guy following a date unless she is SUPER keen? Maybe I'm naieve but this just doesn't happen. Whenever I've been successful, I've been the one pursuing. Maybe I need better genetics for this lol
 
But really the OP doesn't need a one nighter. He should be stringing together a few options that become regulars. No deep, meaningful relationship necessary, just casual sex. Most girls aren't going to give it up on the first outing, if you're expecting that then the pub is a better option than online dating sites.
 
There seems to be the expectation that the females are just waiting for some guy to hit them up; you're naive if you don't think they're playing the numbers game just the same as the guys. They're probably on another forum talking the same shit amongst themselves.
 
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[MENTION=16903]Genics[/MENTION] ; it seems like it "just" happned cos you were very relaxed about it at the time, but still on the prowl.
This hapenned to me also, but its very infrequent. You must one handsome mofo if you consistently score without trying.

The whole idea for the OP is to find a chick he likes, its what he wants, so he needs to work on it, if they fuck to early for his liking, he tries the next one, so while he is searching for her, he's getting laid in the mean time, great for confidence boosting.

[MENTION=17517]jmc123[/MENTION] ; youre doing fine mate, just gotta stick with it, your confidence will skyrocket when you bag your first one and than you ride that wave and stay on a roll. Its not easy, I dont believe it just happens, not often enough anyway.
 
Thanks. Trying to stay positive but tbh it's wearing me down. One minute I feel like I'm getting positive signals. The next, it feels like I've said something that has made them change their mind or opinion of me. It's like walking a fucken tightrope.
 
Sounds like you need to have more fun with it mate. Go in with no expectations, don't give a fuck if they call you or not. Plenty more fish in the sea and even going by what's been happening lately, you'll have another one lined up next week.
Is it possible that you're coming across too strong because you feel like you're walking the tightrope?
 
Mate, they are fussy, not gonna hit your 1st, 2nd or even 3rd target, there is 2 types of approaches, the heat seaker missile and carpet bombing.
The hear seaker dude will target one chick, play it slowly and focus all his energy on her, personally I am a carper bomber, I hit on everthing within my radius, short and sharp to maximise my probabilities of a direct hit, so if I score 1 in 20, i'm happy to deal with 19 rejections.
 
Jmc, it's a tough life. My gf of 7 years broke up with me months ago and im still having issues and ive been rejected by other girls and it's hard.. but dont let it get to you, like white lie said... try and have fun, dont give a shit if they like you or not.

Dont look at it as dating, look at it as socializing and nothing more dont fall for the trap like my mate did and become attached to everything he talks to, just doesnt end well.
 
You will get rejected, you will score - it happens to the best of us - as someone else said you really want to "see" girls that can be an ongoing thing 1. for sex of course but 2. because they are fun to be around and you have a good time with them - of course if feelings are there then act on it if you think its the right thing - atm though of course you prob dont want to rush straight back into something.

If you want just one night stands simply go out on Saturday nights with your mates and try and hook up - I honestly dont think going out on a "date" with someone once will results in a one night stand.
 
Update: Sent her a message saying had a great time, how has your week been etc etc

Reply came within 5 mins.

Followed up with a bit of light banter and suggested a boxing class for this Saturday.

She accepted. Now my concern is: 1. Will she think I'm too muscular and grotesque (srsly). I work hard for it but some chicks may not dig it; and 2. What to do after boxing.

I'm sure you guys will have some suggestions lol

Looks very promising though. I actually didn't expect her to say 'yes'
 
Don't sell yourself short mate, after boxing suggest a shower, see what reaction you get. Food will go down well after some activity.
And yes, not many chicks dig big muscles, I know, they're stoopid, but it's a fact.
just tell her you're a lifter and that's the sideeffect, they don't understand the building muscle for the sake of big muscle concept, I know again, they're stoopid.
 
I suggest not punching her in the kunt while boxing.
Body issues are for women, if she doesn't like it, she doesnt like it. You'll be alright.
After boxing, punch her in the kunt....with your spear of destiny, log in to ausbb and report
 
Stay off the pre workout and you'll be fine. If you're that worried about it, take a leaf from the hooded kunce and go rocky style... Or a loose fitting t shirt
 
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